Motherhood and its mishaps

Winning The Toughest Battle Of Your Day

posted by Katherine Wintsch January 29, 2017 2 Comments

As a mother, I find dinnertime to be a royal pain in the you-know-what.

The determining, deciding, picking, shopping, chopping, cooking, cleaning and arguing is just so laborious. Not only is it hard on any given day, it has to happen every single day.

Even if you nail dinner on Wednesday and everyone eats what you make, you have to muster the energy to start the whole machine all over again on Thursday. And again on Friday.

It makes me tired just writing about it.

I’m starting to envy the whales.

On a recent whale watching tour in Mexico, I learned the secret to life and I also learned a fascinating fact about whales and food. Apparently, they eat for eight months straight then they stop eating for the remaining four months of the year so they can migrate south and mate.

I guess they need to stay focused on the task at hand and hunting down food would simply get in the way.

Can you imagine how productive you could be in life if you didn’t have to worry about eating?  #jealous

Now, when I say that “I find” dinnertime to be harder than hard, I’m not just speaking from personal experience. My entire career is built around researching the highs and lows of mothers across the country and I’ve seen time and time again that the number one pain point of mothers is dinnertime.

Every day. 

Below is the aggregated data (across every different mother you can imagine) that shows the typical day in the life of an American mother.

One clear takeaway from this chart is the fact that you can expect more pain than passion in your day. This research is from over 10,000 women in America. If you think your day today should be filled with balloons and kittens and everyone getting along, you should probably think again.

The numbers don’t lie. Life is challenging.

But I might have found something to make it a little easier.

A friend recently told me that one should run the household like it’s a business. It’s an interesting metaphor. As a general rule of thumb, at work people are organized and buttoned up, communication lines are clear, everybody knows who is doing what and when assignments are due.

Nobody walks into a meeting at work and says, “Wait a second. We’re talking about whaaaaaaaat today?”

However, at home things tend to resemble more of a shit show.

Even when I manage to get home on time and get a healthy meal on the table, my efforts are rewarded with shock and awe almost every time. “Wait a second. We’re having whaaaaaat for dinner tonight?”Awesome.

This week, out of sheer desperation, I decided to put my friend’s advice into action. I came up with two guiding principles that successful businesses follow that I vowed to start following at home when it comes to food.

  1. Have a plan. Successful businesses don’t wait until the last minute to make decisions. They have plans in place and they execute those plans, leaving little room for surprises.
  2. Get some help. Great leaders don’t make decisions in a vacuum and then ram them down people’s throats. They seek input, advice and opinions from everyone on the team.

Do you ever feel like you’re all alone in your pursuit of your family having a happy and healthy meal together? Everybody in the house is fine with frozen pizza and you’re the jerk trying to get them to eat three florets of broccoli before devouring a bowl of chocolate ice cream.

How dare you?

I have a plan that might help.

Last night when my family showed up to the dinner table there was a pen and a piece of paper next to everyone’s plate.

The eyes started rolling immediately.

I informed everyone that we were having a family meeting. Everyone’s first assignment was to write down the one thing that is most important to them when it comes to dinnertime.

Alex’s answer was admirable and adorable.

The others were as follows:

Mine: The food is healthy.
Richard’s: The meal is simple.
Layla’s: The food tastes good.

The final assignment was for us to crowd source “five meals that everyone will eat and like” that also fit the criteria above.

It was a funny exchange. Everyone lobbied to get their meal on the list. Many meals were vetoed.

In the end, we agreed to: steak, pasta, pork chops, hamburgers and nachos.

Simple. Healthy. No fighting.

I have no idea how to make healthy nachos, but I’m going to make the hell out of them because it’s part of the plan. We got to determine the meals together, but I get to make them as healthy as humanly possible.

Broccoli included.

I’m excited about this plan. Like any plan, it won’t be perfect and I’ll have frozen pizza waiting in the wings. However, for the first time ever…I don’t feel like I’m flying blind and I don’t feel like I’m alone in this fight.

One team. One dream. One dinner at a time.

Wish me luck.

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2 Comments

Essie February 1, 2017 at 8:38 pm

Hi Katherine, loved this post and the crowd-sourcing of your menu solution! I was on Amazon looking for an herb-stripper, and Amazon suggested a book on nacho recipes, Buenos Nachos!.
Not sure if they somehow knew I’d read your post, or if it just seemed like me, but thought I’d share.

Thought I’d share our meal journey. We’ve had similar issues, minus kids. Our go-to became going out for Thai or Indian, which was not great for the wallet or the waistline. So about a year ago, we started trying different meal subscription services, and it’s been amazing how this has solved a bunch of these problems for us. (Meals are not boring, simple(ish) to prep, I don’t have to be creative and choose–we select the meals the week before, then I just take the next one off the shelf, food is healthy and way more delicious than I could make on my own, and much cheaper than going to restaurants 6 nights a week) Also, they are great for beginners, teaching you each aspect step-by-step (I too have googled “how to boil an egg”) Thanks to the easy instructions, I’ve now learned how to make a dozen-plus staple dishes, and we’ve added a ton of simple recipes to our repertoire. We’ve tried Hello Fresh, Home Chef, Terra’s Kitchen. Each has their own perks, but I am not exaggerating when I say they have all been pretty much life-changing for our evenings. We don’t have kids yet, but I imagine these will be even more helpful as our family grows. Maybe this comment will help someone with the dinner drama!

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Katherine Wintsch February 6, 2017 at 7:57 pm

Hi Essie,

Thanks for sharing! The dinner drama is never ending but those tips certainly help!

-Jamie

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