Learning to love yourself can be a challenge.
We love our children unconditionally, but when it comes to loving ourselves, we tend to put a plethora of conditions in place. We’ll feel better about ourselves when we lose the extra weight we can’t seem to get off, land that big new business deal at work or finally get off our lazy butts and start writing thank you notes like we always said we would.
Sure, there might be a lot of love in your heart, but most of that love never makes it back to you because you’re so busy doling it out to the dozens of people around you at any given point in time – your children, your husband, the soccer coach, the baseball coach, the cashier at the grocery store and the woman who runs the parking garage at your office.
So how do you do it? What can you do to start yelling at yourself less and liking yourself more?
There’s no shortage of spiritual gurus out in the world speaking, writing and lecturing on the topic. The problem is that most busy moms who find themselves filled with more than their fair share of self-doubt tend to find that type of advice a bit, shall we say, “froufrou”.
Another option would be to turn to some of my favorite self-help books for wisdom and sage advice on the subject, but that method requires a significant investment of time – which I’m guessing you don’t have lying around in excess.
If you barely have enough time to brush your hair, notice your son tracking blood into your house or put on pajamas before you go to bed, then perhaps my latest way to cheat the system will work for you. I came up with the technique last week, and let me tell you, it works wonders.
The shortcut is to let the radio do your self-help work for you.
Here’s how it works: First, locate a classic love song station on the radio, Pandora or Spotify and turn up the volume on your headphones or in your car while waiting behind 62 other cars in the carpool line. Next, close your eyes and imagine that every song was written by you, for you. In other words, resist the temptation to imagine your long-lost boyfriend or ex-husband singing them to you, and imagine you singing them to yourself.
I tried this exercise on for size recently when I was at the gym. The Pandora station I selected shuffled through everything from Elvis to Disney and I learned a lot along the way. Here are six sets of lyrics from six different songs and the lesson on self-love that I took away from each one.
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